The Wussies Don’t Get It !

Pygmalion is a fictional character from the Roman poet Ovid. Pygmalion was a lonely sculptor who carved a woman out of  ivory.
According to Ovid he is ‘not interested in women’, but his statue is so
realistic that he falls in love with it. He offers the statue presents
and eventually prays to Venus ,
the goddess of beauty and love. Venus takes pity on him and brings the
statue to life. He marries, and their son Paphos was the product of the
union between Pygmalion and his statue-wife.

This greek myth brought about the term used by behavioural psychologist as the pygmalion effect.
The concept of the self-fulfilling prophecy can be summarized in these key principles:

1) We form certain expectations of people or events
2) We communicate those expectations with various cues
3) People tend to respond to these cues by adjusting their behavior to match them
4) The result is that the original expectation becomes true

This creates a circle of self-fulfilling prophecies.

Let me put this back to pickup language for all the dumbass’ around, who dont get my drift.

Negative example

You see a couple of chicks at bar counter ordering drinks. You are biologically designed to immediately form an opinion of them. Pussy boys being pussy boys are pessimists and thus form the opionion that these chicks are ice queens, have rich guy friends somewhere else or simple have no shot at them. Since they are wannabe playas they will still try their luck, however with negative energy.   

So, you enter the set with low confidence, the belief that you WILL fail, and at the same time with the hope that you are wrong and the chicks would respond well. However, you would enter the set with negative body language portraying a loser as well as speaking with no personality; you essentially set yourself up for failure.

People have a
tendency to respond by adjusting their behavior to match ours. So, these chicks would in response hold defensive body language as well as verbally respond coldly.

Positive example

You see a couple of chicks at bar counter ordering drinks. You are
biologically designed to immediately form an opinion of them. Jedi pimps are optimists and thus form the opionion that
these chicks are fun, interesting, can carry themselves well and have a proper engaging conversation. With this kind of mindset, You already believe these chicks will eventually open up to you because of your outgoing and spontanous nature even if they are cold by nature. 

So, you enter the set with assurance of yourself,  and protray yourself as someone who knows how to have a great time. Coupled with a crisp sense of humour, you enter the set making them laugh.

With such a personality, even the nastiest of girls would mimic your energy and tone down their bitchiness. Bottom line, if  you continue this attitude and play the cards right, you can number close and then its " Wham, Bam, Thank You Maam ! "

There you have it, the self-fulfilling prophecy.

Definitions

Wingmen serve as decoys;
they take one for the team, engage the secondary targets, and jump on the
grenade and generally keep someone else occupied while the Wing Commander
engages the primary target.

How to choose the perfect wingmen

It is better to have no wingmen at all than bad wingmen. The types of people
that make bad wingmen are:

The drunk guys — they will usually crash and burn, and nip
your wings on their way down. Instead of backing you up, they’ll give all your
naughty secrets away.

The boring geeks — There is nothing worse than a boring
motherfucker. Remember, boredom is contagious. The target will not be as
enthusiastic if her friend looks like she’s being forced to watch Titanic for
the tenth time.

The alpha male – These are usually highly competitive and
like to steal the limelight. They might engage the primary against orders. Or
just can’t bring himself to be seen in public talking with road kill.

Rules of engagement

The rules are simple. It starts with the wingman or wingmen
engaging the friends of the target. The main motive of this is to make the
primary feel no guilt that her less attractive friends are alone. Without this
sense of guilt, the primary tends to be much more accommodating. The wing
commander then appears, whereby the he is introduced to the group. Immediately
after that, he goes straight for the primary.

Approx time to get phone no. — 10 mins

Approx time to get laid          – 60 mins

These are approximated figures and will differ from person
to person. Sometimes, the latter will not happen at all. But at least you
tried. Ok, realistically, sometimes the mission wont go as planned as in the
wingmen loses interest or gets shot down. The first wingman to step up and
starts engaging the target is now the wing commander. If the objectives are
just to start collecting numbers, when round 2 starts, the roles go into
rotation. Whereby one of the previous round’s wingmen is now the commander.

The penalties

This is integrated to the Singapore game where wingmen pussy
out and the wing commander has to fight alone, where it’s almost certain that
he will get shot down because her guilt is back!

Failure to engage first – wingmen buys the next round of
drinks

Pissing off her friends which will result in the wing
commander getting shot down - wingmen buys the next round of drinks

Wing commander refusal to ask for targets no. – wing commander
buys the next round of drinks

United we stand, divided we fall.

Have fun guys

It just dawned upon me after receiving feedback that people think i have only 10 posts. I have 20+ ok ! yar ! yar ! Considered pathetic compared to wendy’s but still who doesnt believe in quality over quantity ?  The previous ones are as good as the recent ones, if not better. I realise my style of writing changes according to my mood. Cheers guys….

1) Go get yourself a pair of balls, hey I can only help those who wanna help themselves. Lots of alcohol helps in temporary growing some, but remember this - drunkards aren’t attractive no matter how good looking u are.

2) Observe the target and determine if she’s single. Just guess, u dun have to be accurate, but u’ll feel more at ease if u think she is. Hint : notice the way she looks around as well as her dressing

3) Handsup, whoever can enjoy a conversation with someone whose mouth smells like they just ate shit ?
Breathspray ! Breathspray ! Breathspray !

4) ok now for the opener. The important thing, as showcased in ‘hitch’, is to shock. This is especially true if ur not visually attractive. You need something to separate urself from the rest. Think of it this way, your favorite food for example. Lets say u continue eating it consecutively every meal for a month. Would u still enjoy it ? No ! This using stupid things like ‘can I buy u a drink ?’ or ‘do I know u from somewhere’ is COUNTER-productive. Meaning its not even neutral, and WILL get u shot down. Don’t do that. What I used to do was laugh in their face, especially strangers. This is fantastic though I aint going into the reasoning

To be continued…

Firstly, to all the fans, sorry for not blogging for a while, been kinda short of topics.

Ok, lets get down to business. Loud clubs, is great as there are hordes of attractive women lurking about everywhere. However, the problem is that these women have the tendency to stay away from everyone else, prefering to stay within their own group. Not that a group pickup is impossible, however, I believe my readers are essentially novices. Next, loud clubs makes it near impossible to actually carry out a decent conversation and I dont know about u guys but I fucking hate people shouting in my ear. Since normal conversation is impossible, that leaves the sucessful pickups determined by 1) looks, excluding myself and some other lucky people with good genes, u don’t stand a chance unless well, shes ugly, has bad taste or both.
2) phenomenal dancing, ok truthfully I aint good enuf to fall into this category, btw phenomenal dancing = to possessing the ability to seduce or arouse a stranger via dancing/grinding (whatever it take to achieve the objective). Trust me, I’ve seen it being done first hand.

Ok, now comes to the gold mine. Quiet bar Aka pickup joints. To all the idiots, when I say quiet I dun mean empty. Yeah, a pickup at a pickup joint is essentially based more of linguistic skill as well the ability to have a proper conversation as compared to purely looks. Realistically, looks does play a factor to some women, cos some women will only go for the hot guys. These women are usually alright looking who think they’re really hot.

Women at these joints are waiting for someone interesting to meet. Ok, they might give the excuse that they’re there for music, dancing etc…. although that could be partially true, the real underlying truth is that they are bored and need someone to fill that void.

In my next post I shall discuss the secret of conversation - what to do to initiate contact.

Today i’ll like to talk about attitude…

Many people think of poor Gawain as a cocky son-of-a-bitch who puts people off, hey, im confessing that it is true but also not true. True, if u are a woman who always needs to get her ways and cannot deal with the fact that there is someone who wont take ur shit. Somehow, these are usually the more attractive ones that throughout their whole lives have always got some poor wussy to do shit for her because she’s "hot". When someone doesnt take ur shit, the perception is that you arent attracted to them and their entire frame is gone. It all boils down to insecurity. People in general arent very adaptable
when meeting someone more confident than themselves, it makes them feel
inferior. Most attractive women have the mentality that they are always superior to the rest, thus when approached by a super-confident man, perhaps she thinks that other people will see that she isnt as confident as she projects, and gets scared that the next 10 poeple she meets will follow suit. What does this lead to ? She HAS to find a way to regain her higher status than you, so thus she has no choice but to diss you or act hostile to eliminate you from her "all so perfect" life.
what i have experienced is that she would ignore u, insult u and find a way to misinterpret u teasing her for an insult and be offended.

Not true, if they have enough experiences with guys who actually get it. If they are good communicators and have the confidence to talk to people who are so obviously higer status than themselves without seeming boring and a killjoy, then they pass. And if u do actually pass, i’m sure u would learn a lot from these people, such as understanding conversation on deeper levels as well as valuable lessons on interaction and ultimately lead a more fulfilling life.

Upon Emmanual’s request, i shall speak about phone/cyber sex…

Case 1, desperate motherfuckers going to irc or smt and purposely looking for phone/cybersex…. haha… right… what hv i gotta say ? losers and kids ! The kind that has no friends who would accompany them to a club or do not have the confidence to actually go alone to get some real action constitutes as losers. The others are like 12 year olds, whose mummys and daddys dont let them associate with girls, curiousity leads them to irc to hv "sex"…

Case 2, loved one is overseas and you and her kinda need the "intimacy". what comes to mind is american pie 2 where oz and his choir girl is separated and they resort to phone sex cos they are both horny, and stiffler kinda evesdrops on them?  well…personally i havnt done any of such stuff since i dont believe in long distance relationships. however, some people feel they have found "the one" so they would wanna keep things going. This is how i see it…. since intimacy for a women is essentially emotional, maybe, just maybe she can deal with just phone sex for a year and not cheat b4 u 2 meet up again. We all know that sex to guys is physical and visual, so cumon, logic says that the first rather hot girl that comes on to u after u have been sex-starved for months, what happens ?
Pertaining to your question on how it can benefit a relationship, i think it just might satisfy her if u are very good with words and can give her an emotional experience. Doing this, could keep a couple together even after time apart ( no promises ) however , as i have mentioned, i believe that it will be so much harder on the guys part. If u suspect that u will cheat in the near future, then i suggest that you end everything on a peaceful note and move on.

So Emmanual, you arent very clear on the reasons of phone/cybersex. This is just an assumption.  Good luck dude. Btw, being part of a confident guy is not giving a shit about those stereotypes who think what u are doing is wrong or stupid. fuck em its ur life.

hey people… I need help on something…. read on…

ok, most guys look great in blazers, however in singapore, most people dun even get the chance to wear one. Besides the business presentations,weddings and proms, blazers are rarely seen. And i think its such as waste that such a piece of clothing should be left to special events. In western cultures, blazers are worn daily or at the most weekly by even the common man. some might argue that it might be considered overdressed because its damm hot in singapore. well, if women can tortue their feet the entire day weraing heels, enduring the blisters and pain, just to look better. i dun see why men cant do the same and endure the heat.

just post a comment on what u people think…. i will greatly appreciate it. thanks

In this post I will talk about love. Haha yeah, complete 180 from the usual pickup stuff but what the heck, I’m running out of issues to talk about.

Ok, the people with emotional baggage. This is a terrible trait. I shall go on on the "I have trust issues" part of it. Trust issues, well, it usually the hotter people that do have trust issues. One reason is that I believe that they know they are hot and thus only go for people who are on the same, if not higher level of hotness. And since their other half is hot, he or she will naturally get the attention that a hot person always gets; sexual advances, hit on and being flirted with. This causes them to have massive insecurity especially if one of their ex’s had cheated on them before. So the paradoxical thing about this is that because of these trust issues, these hot people usually end up wid some ugly motherfucker, just to feel secure. The alternative to this would be many non-committed relationships with reasonably hot people or playing in layman terms.

Personally, I’ve gone through the insecurity part and thank heavens it all over, but I’m sure u readers out there don’t give a rats ass bout my life so ill save it. Bottomline is, that give the hot person a chance, u know u want her/him , their no easier way to explain this to you besides go and fucking try it. True, u might get hurt, but what doesn’t kill u makes u stronger. And cumon, u know u dun wanna end up wid roadkill !

* Disclaimer : Gawain doesn’t take responsibility if u get hurt and do in fact kill yourself. If u know u are suicidal, then please stick with roadkill.

Ok, just a little food for thought. Ask any of your friends on how they met their bf ? What would be the common reply ? We met at work ? At school ? Met through a mutual friend ? But how often do u hear, oh I met him at a club ? He picked me up off the streets ? Almost never !

This just goes to show that men in singapore are not proactive and that they prefer to leave things to fate or luck to drop someone into their lap. Why is it so hard to meet people off the street ? It all comes down to the fact that most people are born with the fear of rejection, as well the fear of being laughed at.

Ok, why is it that u can go straight up to the cashier at say mcdonalds and order something without even thinking twice? It’s due to the fact that u know that they will respond and not ignore u. But, if u havnt tried talking to someone on the street, den how would u know that they wouldn’t entertain u ? Think about it. So, the bottom line is that when u actually try it out enough, u will realise that most women aren’t dao or evil. And like placing an order, it will become 2nd nature to u. No fear, no thoughts about the outcome, just plain confidence will be projected.

Need more help in beating the fear of rejection ? Smart people would ask for help, average people would settle this issue the long and hard way, and morons, will go through their entire life not settling this. Which one are u ?

Currently, my friend and i are holding pickup sessions at clubs, where we will show as well as teach u how it is done at only $25/hr. Only the smart may apply.